She Shed Heaven

It’s here! Today marks the first day of me working in my She Shed, over two years in the making by my talented husband. From scratch. I mean, he drew up the plans and built the thing all on his own. It’s pretty remarkable. I’m so impressed. Especially since he did it all without my help.

Here’s what happened. We both work at home, and for years we’ve been kind of on top of each other. I told him, rather dramatically, it’s the She Shed or our marriage. He said he wanted to build one, but that he’d only do it if I helped. He thought it would be a good project for us to work on together. A bonding experience, if you will. Reluctantly, and suffering from tendinitis in my arms, I said yes. I agreed.

So, on the first day of construction, tool belt strapped around my waste, he snapped at me for not doing something exactly the way I was told. I threw down the tool belt in a huff, declared him an asshole and quit my job as his assistant. He could hire help if he needed it.

So, with resentment, he took on this albatross and for the next two years, on and off, worked to make it perfect. And it is.

And now I have to make an amends to him for committing to this thing and backing out (even though I did nothing wrong and it probably would have destroyed our marriage.) Besides, I have had other things to do for the past two years. Getting sober? Hello?

But I’ll make amends, because I know I played a role in this. I don’t feel badly for not helping because he did a better job on his own, without having me around to frustrate him. But I do feel bad about all the fights over it that may have squelched his enthusiasm. 

I distinctly remember a night at home alone, drunk, pre-treatment, fantasizing about burning the thing down to spite him and to end the drama. I need to make amends for those thoughts. 

This has a happy ending though. I am so incredibly appreciative of him doing this and making it so spectacular. So appreciative that I even told him he could visit me in here.

I am on my way folks. Sitting at my desk, being all organized and shit, and getting work done. 

Thank you Michael, my talented guy!

Disclaimer: It will be decorated soon. This is not the final product.